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A memory of Kirk

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What happened to us being us?

Usually my blogs contain information or stories that relate to, well……just getting older. The wonder of it, the frustration of it, and the trials and tribulations of looking in the mirror every day and seeing someone we don’t recognize.

A man died a few weeks ago who I conjured as a hero…. he had a cleft chin, a great head of hair, and a face that could be a carving on the side of Mt. Rushmore…that was Kirk Douglas.

Sometimes heroes in the movies never really measure up to the hero they are portraying……how do I know that Kirk Douglas really was a hero? Sure, he had faults…. don’t we all? Did he make some wrong choices in his life? Again, don’t we all?

He captured the screen when he appeared, and I said,” I wanted to be him”, but do we ever know our heroes?……I did. Did I ever meet this man?  No. Did I ever talk to this man? No. So how is it possible that I know Kirk Douglas when I never met this man?…….because I knew his mother and saw her for years, every Sunday afternoon.

When I was a little kid growing up in upstate New York, I had a ritual with my father. We visited his mother, my grandmother, every Sunday at a retirement home. My grandmother shared a suite with a very nice woman who welcomed me also, on Sundays. This woman always had wonderful, fresh hard colored candy balls of all shapes and flavors. She always seemed to have some fresh baked goods, fresh flowers, and something I had not seen before, a small television. She had black and white photographs everywhere, and that’s when I realized, or was told, who this woman was… she was Mrs. Bryna Demsky, the mother of movie star, Kirk Douglas.

I heard how nice he treated the staff, how he brought flowers to be placed throughout the retirement home…. He was thoughtful, and knew everyone’s name. It was like he became every resident’s make-believe son. Mrs. Demsky called him, Izzy. She called me, “kleyner” or ‘little one’ in Yiddish.

On one holiday, I received a gift, all wrapped up in colored paper and presented on Sunday to me by Mrs. Demsky. I unwrapped this gift at her insistence, and in a large glass jar, were the most beautiful hard candy balls that a little kid could have imagined, and it came from him, Izzy Demsky, or as the world knew him, Kirk Douglas.

I’ve met heroes, and scoundrels in my life, but I must say that my first hero was genuine because I saw how this man treated his mother and his whole family…….but more importantly, I saw him give a present to a little boy he never met, but  who spent time on a Sunday afternoon with his mother, and kept her company. He was then, and always will be, a hero.

Take it for what it is……It’s just as I see it.

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About the Author: Leonard F. Baer

Leonard Baer's practice focuses on Elder Law, and Estate Planning. His previous experience was in the area of complex criminal litigation, serving as Deputy Chief of the Major Crimes Division for The United States Attorney’s Office in the Southern District of Florida. Mr. Baer was recognized by the Office of The Attorney General, as one of the top prosecutors in the country during his tenure. He has been included in North Carolina Top Rated Lawyers, a distinction awarded to those lawyers recognized by their colleagues as leaders in their field. He has also been recognized by the Florida Bar, for his efforts in representing seniors and their families, who are victims of scams and fraud. Mr. Baer is an AV rated lawyer listed in Martindale-Hubbell, and has been selected for inclusion in their Bar Registrar of Preeminent Lawyers, which for over 90 years, includes only those select law practices that have earned their highest rating. He has been designated by Martindale-Hubbell as preeminent in his field, and in the top 5% of all lawyers practicing in the United States. Mr. Baer has also been ranked by AVVO, an online Legal Directory of over 200,000 lawyers nationally, as Superb, their highest rating. He served as adjunct professor of Sports Law at The University of Miami, and is a frequent lecturer on the topics of Elder Law, Estate Planning, Asset Protection and Fraud Protection. He has been a columnist for several newspapers for over 13 years and currently has a nationally syndicated blog, “As I See It” with a readership of over 25,000. Leonard is a Guest Contributor of The Silver Life and has recently launched a new service called SuddenlySolo1 -

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